Flying Blind, Statistically Speaking

I made a bold move last night, one that I’ve tried to make in the past and caved within hours. I turned off Jetpack so I can focus on the writing rather than the page views and other statistics. When I failed at going stat free in the past, I used the logic that I needed to know what search results were bringing viewers to my page. I needed to know which pages readers were enjoying. I needed to know where readers were going when they left my site.

The truth is, I don’t need any of that! What I need is to write quality content that people might want to read someday. What I need is to do what I love, and if I loved numbers so much, I would be an accountant rather than trying to make a living from home as a writer and designer! It’s different when I’m doing management work for other sites, then it’s fun to look at the numbers, but when it’s my own site, I’m too attached to my content and I’m constantly trying to figure out why I’m not seeing the hits on posts that I love.

This is one of the big things I got out of Blissdom. Don’t write for the money, don’t write for the page views, write for the love. When your passion comes through, the readers will be back for more. When you’re putting up content in hopes of improving your stats, that will come through and can wind up driving readers away from your site.

I will admit that quitting Jetpack is almost as hard as quitting smoking. They’re both addictions that I will be much better when I’m over them, but for now, they’re making my skin crawl a bit. I will turn stats back on in a month just to see what happens…

Does Your Child Get the Silver Medal?

Blissdom has been a huge eye-opener for me. There are probably many moms who will read this and wonder how I could knowingly do this to my child without thinking about the consequences. To those moms, kudos to you for having it all together. Jon Acuff was our opening keynote speaker and he was talking about what happens when you get to the point where your life is taking second place to this computer screen and “home” you’ve created for yourself.

The first example he brought up was when you find yourself telling your kids to wait because you’re on the phone, replying to an email, finishing a post, etc. Yes, there are times when those things need to be done as a working mom, but how often? What is the threshold for whether you tell the kids to wait or make the decision that what they want to talk to you about is the most important thing in the world?

Because I work from home and rely on my design and blogging to provide for our family, I do this far too often. I try to explain it to Mack in terms of the things she wants and needs, but the truth is, I’m depriving her of the thing she wants the most. Me. She doesn’t care about the stuff, even if it sometimes feels as if that’s the only thing consuming her little mine. She wants mom time. She wants me to stop phoning in being a parent and be the mommy who promised to love and nurture her.

I have to do a better job of not only showing up for my most important job, but I need to get in there and DO the job! My kids deserve that from me. They deserve having a mom who will drag her butt out of bed early to get some work done so I can be there for them when they’re awake. They deserve having a mom who sits down and figures out a schedule so everything that needs to get done is done. I need to spend the time that I have with them and not just near them.

One day at a time, this can be done! Hell, for right now, I’d settle for succeeding one hour at a time! My kids are gold medal kids and it’s time they take their place on the podium!

If you work from home, what do you do to make it work for your family?

40 Days of Prayer – Hungry Children

I want you to  make a list of 5 children who you love, or at least that you think are pretty cute. Can you see their beautiful faces in your mind? Now, which one of those five kids is wondering if they’re going to have dinner tonight? It’s pretty scary when you think of it in terms of the children you know, but one in five children in America don’t have enough to eat.

This is one of those things that we all like to say we want to do something about, but if it’s not put in front of you, do you think about it? I know that I try not to and that’s an awful thing to have to admit. For me, it’s hard to think about it because there have been times when Mack could have been a statistic if not for the help of friends and family. I hated the times when we had to rely on the backpack program at her school to make sure she would have enough to eat. I am grateful there were programs like the backpack program so we knew she wouldn’t become part of one of the crappy “clubs” out there.

I have been blessed to meet the great team from ConAgra here at Blissdom and I’m looking forward to letting you all know about the Child Hunger Ends Here campaign. I’m not going to do that right now, because it deserves its own post, but keep an eye out to learn what you can do to provide meals to hungry children right here in America without spending a time extra. Of course, if you have the money to spare, I will be starting to give you ways to help out as much as you possibly can!

But, for today, we pray.

Dear Heavenly Father,
Thank you for giving me today. Thank you for blessing me with the ability to put food on the table for my children and for the resources to help us when we didn’t know where the food would come from. Please be with the children who are sitting at home tonight, hungry and wondering if they will get breakfast in the morning. Give their parents the ability to find the food to sustain their families by legal and ethical means and bless them with the opportunity to change the situation they are currently facing. I also ask that you open the hearts of everyone who is able to help so they will see that childhood hunger is not something that affects other people, it’s something that could easily impact their own lives.

In your name I pray,
Amen.

I Have a HUGE Problem With Blissdom

This is my first blog conference experience and I have to say, I have a big ol’ problem with Blissdom!

Jon Acuff Blissdom

When the opening keynote speaker is a man as funny and inspiring as Jon Acuff, what is going to top that? It sounds stupid to those who don’t understand, but I seriously wanted to cry a couple of times because things that he said hit me right in the gut. By the time we left the Tennessee Ballroom at Opryland, I had a full page of post ideas that I will write at some point and more pages filled with notes. Just trying to tell you the different things I learned from Jon Acuff today would take an entire post!

I’ve heard about all of the awesome swag at conventions, including how much more some other conferences have, but I have new Dr. Scholl’s comfy shoes, and I’ve told you the tale of two shoes, so Famous Footwear won me over today! I’ve decided to make it my mission to make 2012 my year of cute, comfortable, affordable shoes because these bad boys rock!

Two words… COW PANTS! Was there any question on whether or not a Wisconsin blogger would snag these adorable pants? I can’t wait to wear them! Oh, and I got over my fear and got in front of the camera to earn my pants, so that is one goal conquered!

Where else can you say that you saw Rascal Flatts this close-up? I had some pictures that I wasn’t happy with, but then I realized I needed to quit my complaining because I was close enough to reach out and touch the guys! This was the end of an awesome night of music for me, including Diamond Rio, Vince Gill, Riders in the Sky and a pile more at The Opry House.

I’m looking forward to another day filled with information that will help me find my voice and continue to grow. If you’re at Blissdom, what is one thing you’ve gotten out of it?

40 Days of Prayer – For Those Who are Depressed

Today is the third day in the 40 Days of Prayer challenge. The topic of depression is one that is very close to my heart since it’s something I deal with on a daily basis. But it’s not only because of myself that I felt called to choose this as a topic of prayer, it was chosen because depression is something that people feel like they can’t talk about and can’t share. There is an ongoing cycle where we don’t want to deal with people and risk our depression being “outed” but the loneliness of living that way deepens the depression.

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)

This is verse that has gotten me through many lonely days and nights. It’s hard to remember that depression isn’t a punishment for being a “bad person” or a “bad Christian,” it’s simply something that we are faced with and have to learn to live with. If you are depressed, please read that last sentence again. YOU have the choice to live with your depression or suffer from it. Which do you choose?

Dear Heavenly Father,
Please guard over those who are living with depression and other mental illnesses. Shelter them in your embrace and allow them to know the love you feel for them. Give them the wisdom and guidance to seek help so they can learn to live with their afflictions rather than suffer from them. Do not let them close in on themselves, but lead them to reach out to those who can help them grow.

In Your name I pray,
Amen. 

40 Days of Prayer – For the Non-Believer

First of all, I apologize that this is so late! It’s been a long day of travel to Nashville and I’m just now settling in for the night.

As we continue the 40 Days of Prayer Challenge, I think it’s important that we pray for those who are currently non-believers. As Christians, our job is not to judge those who don’t believe in Christ, but to be loving and supportive of them and help lead them to accept Jesus as their Savior. Tomorrow (since many of you will not see this tonight), I ask that you pray for God’s guidance to someone you can talk to today and share the Word of Christ!

Your word is a lamp to my feet, and a light to my path. ~Psalm 119:105

Dear Heavenly Father,
Please give me the strength to share You with at least one person today. Give me the patience and caring heart needed to approach them without judgment. Please help me over the next 45 days to bring the joy of Your resurrection to those who do not currently have a relationship with you.

In Your name I pray.
Amen 

Hip Fusions Design Giveaway

I have been following Hip Fusion Designs for awhile now and absolutely LOVE all of the jewelry. It’s beautifully handcrafted and each piece is amazing! Here’s a little bit more about Hip Fusion Designs:

Wearable Art
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I reached out the Neida, the artist behind Hip Fusion Designs, and asked her if I could do a review for her. She let me pick out what I would like to try. I chose the gorgeous Sweetheart Silver Necklace shown below. I absolutely love it! It really suits my style and I can wear it with so many outfits. It lays lightly around my neck and doesn’t bother me at all like other necklaces. I’m excited to wear it on my Blissdom trip this week and show it off!

Neida has offered to give one lucky Slop Swap reader a $50 Gift Certificate to Hip Fusions Designs! So pick out your favorite item and be ready to WIN! :) You can also find Hip Fusion Designs on Facebook.

Giveaway starts 2/22 and ends 3/2 at 11:01 EST.

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Savvycents Wallet Giveaway

Do you want a great wallet? I’ve teamed up with Dawn from Slop Swap and some other great bloggers to bring you this giveaway!

You can see Dawn’s review of it here. Up for giveaway is the black Savvycents wallet.

Giveaway starts 2/22 12:01 EST and ends 3/3 12:01 EST!

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40 Days of Prayer Begins NOW!

As we move into the period before Easter, I have decided to once again host a 40 Days of Prayer series. This means that six days per week between now and Easter, there will be a new prayer for the day. Some of these may be things you are already praying for in your life and some may be people, groups or situations which are often overlooked in daily prayer. Each day, I will include my prayer, but I encourage you to add to it if you feel so led.

40 Days of Prayer Day One

Today, we are starting at the very beginning. As we begin this journey, and I hope that you will consider joining with me, we are praying to the strength and conviction to see this through to Easter and beyond. By the time we are in the habit of daily prayer for something other than our typical prayers, we will be trying to find something to add to our prayers every day.

Dear Heavenly Father,
I know that I have not been the child you wish for me to be through the past year. Please give me the strength and resolve I felt a year ago when you led me to this journey. Help me remain strong when Satan tempts me, as I know he will with greater frequency as I grow closer to you, and lead me back to the safety of your arms. Fill my heart with the knowledge to continue this journey and live my life in your image.

Amen.

No, I Don’t Have a Dirty Forehead

I have a feeling there are going to be a number of Christians saying this today, or at the very least, thinking it. Today is Ash Wednesday, the day when many of us will go to church and celebrate the beginning of Lent. I am torn because I will not be celebrating in my home church, because I have to drive to my mom’s and it’s simply not wise to wait until that late but as soon as I’m done writing this, I will be researching the times of services in the towns she lives near and I will be visiting a new church.

Last year was the first year I attended a service involving ashes. Growing up, my Lutheran church held a service but there were no ashes. We would wander around wondering why people had “smudges” on their foreheads and it wasn’t until I was probably 10 when I knew it was because of Ash Wednesday and it was even later than that that I started to understand the meaning of the cross placed on some belivers’ foreheads.

The Meaning of the Ash Cross on a Forehead

Remember that thou art dust, and to dust thou shalt return. ~Genesis 3:19

From the research I have done, I have found two meanings to the ashes placed on a believer’s forehead on Ash Wednesday. The first is to symbolize the fact that from the dust we came and to the dust we will return.

The other is that ashes were used in Biblical times as a symbol of mourning. Back then, people would dust themselves with ashes as a way to express remorse for their sins. Most of the references to this are in the Old Testament and I have to admit, I’m very interested in finding out if there are also New Testament references other than those referring to “long ago.”

When you see someone walking around with a “smudge” on their forehead today, don’t reach over to wipe it off, offer them a napkin or tell them that their head is dirty. And if you celebrate in a church that doesn’t use the symbolism of the ash cross, know that there is nothing wrong with that either.

Turn away from sin and be faithful to the Gospel.